PART - 1
''I will drop you home.'' I said.
''Can we walk?'' said she.
Hands in hands but in silence we were walking down the street. Through these years, after countless meetings, phone calls, and nights spent talking, I have learned to understand her silence. And now, it was hard to accept the fact that she was leaving. I was not sure how I felt about it. Her friendliness, laughter, jokes, and goodness had quickly made her the love of my life. Her being half of my age was itself a proof of our unconditional love. I was wondering how would I do without her; holding her hand more tightly, thinking that I will never let her go, I..........
"After two days we would be away from each other, I can't believe this." Breaking the long pause she said.
I tried to control, still a little sad about the prospect of losing her, I consoled myself thinking that the person who had taught me so much about life and laughter, the person who had helped me grow to be myself, was just going away for a while, to do some growing and learning of her own and that I was not losing her. I was boggled when my selflessness dissolved into tears. She came forward to hug me, and my breath choked and I wrapped her in my arms. There were tears in her eyes, too, and we cried for a while, talking about things we'd done. How we managed to meet every now and then ,how we used to talk late night, how I used to give her her favorite chocolates throwing them through her window, being safe from our parents how we continued our friendship, the times we'd gone out for lunch and walked around talking in the loudest, most obnoxious voices we could and the songs we used to dedicate to each other.
Eventually our tears dried, and we stepped out of our embrace, reasoning that she did 'have two more days left.'
"I think you should leave now." She said.
"Take care." I kissed her forehead and turned around to leave. I looked ahead and found her mother standing right in front of me. But I could not react. I was just standing there blank with no expression of guilt or fear.And her mother stepped towards us. She gave me a 'murderer's' look and passed me by. I looked back at my love. She was standing there looking confident and had that expression of 'I have not done anything wrong, just listen to me once.' But mother could not be convinced. She slapped her, I went forward to explain everything but nevertheless I got the consolation prize, a tight slap on my left cheek. Before I could show my gratitude to her mother for comforting me with her consolation prize. She ragged her inside and asked me to leave. I thought that she will be able to convince her mother as we were innocent and we really did not do anything wrong, as per situation any mother's reaction to be like that was obvious but I believed that she would understand us after hearing the reality.
I was being restless thinking about what would have happened to her. All through these 7 years we did not have any obstacle in our friendship and now when she has to go away from me after only two days. This had to happen to give us all the pain at one single time. I was trying to be positive but every now and then I had that fear of losing her.
I called up her boyfriend the other night. Yes. I said "her boyfriend".You got it right!
We were not a couple, she was my best friend and I loved her more than anybody else. Her boyfriend told me that he talked to her brother and got to know that she left the city that day itself and her mother also left with her, She goes with her everywhere, she does not leave her alone for even a millisecond. She is not allowed to meet even her female friends, because her mother do not want any contact between us through anybody, she thinks that I used her daughter's innocence and played with her feelings. She was very sure that if she did not take this step I would have ditched her daughter and left her alone to suffer.
I asked him if she explained anything about our relation to her mother or not.
He said that she did. But she is not believing her, she is saying that I am not a fool, I can understand it very well, a guy and a girl can never be just friends. And that her mother is very disappointed with her that she broke her trust. And all she wants is to save her daughter from every kind of frustration.
"I can't understand dude how can she break her trust if her mother never had it on her and how can she save her from frustration by frustrating her." I said.
"We can't do anything. I just hope she is fine. We all have to suffer and you know her mother is saving her from sufferings. Don't worry we will soon find out some way." He said.
His little way of saying everything would be okay could not help me any better. I was amazed at his politeness in such a situation. A lump filled my throat, and I could no longer hide my tears. I used to think it was so easy to be strong and be optimistic because I had never before experienced the real reason to cry. I cried myself to sleep.
I didn't know how to cope with not having a part of me. She had become half of my mind. It was scary how empty and lost I felt. I had no energy and could not concentrate. The connection we had and still have is unbreakable, no matter what. To this day, even though she is not here with me. I love her and care about her so much. Not seeing her is really difficult. While she used to be my other half. I am now complete on my own, but all of me still loves her. I want her to know that through any challenges or obstacles, I want to face them together.
PART - 2
Why in some parts of our country there is an immense fear in teenage girls from their parents. When they do wrong the fear is natural but when they are faultless why do they fear to confess the truth. Why is there a fear in her in telling her parents about her close friendship with a boy even when she has no romantic relation with him. This is because of our mentality. Tell me the truth when you see two friends of same gender roaming around, you hardly care to notice them but when you see two friends of opposite gender (hmmm..you would never call them friends I know, you will rather call them a couple or a pair) spending some time together, whats the first thought coming in your mind ???why do you stare at them like that???
You and I both know the answer very well.
A girl and a boy from different families are not obviously gf-bf. They can be just friends or best friends. And the feeling of love in friendship is beyond the limit of love between an official couple. Friendship is actually love, the real selfless and unconditional love. The love is as devoted as the love with your sister, your father, your mother, or your brother.
How many times you have hugged or kissed your brother or father or son?? and for males how many times you have hugged or kissed your sister or mother or daughter?? what if we call it a romantic relationship rather than a devoted relationship, What if society tries to keep you away from your own child just because he is of opposite sex? why is it restrained to love someone with your heart just because you don't have an owned name for that relation and the society gives that relation a name which insults the feeling of LOVE.
If two friends of opposite sex love each other truly, that feeling is beyond the desire of physical attachment.
I have shared my views specially to make the parents of today's teenagers understand them, trust them, and support them, irrelevant to what society says. Try to be a friend rather than being a mother or father, be so loving and understanding that your child doesn't fear in confessing something. And when your child shares something, trust them.
If your child is lying to you, is hiding something from you or doing something wrong.Don't blame them or their friend's circle. The reason is you and your parenting. A child in teenage year is full of enthusiasm and excitement they would definitely follow the trends, your responsibility is to be so close to them that they do tell you without fear before taking any single step no matter if its a big one or a small one. Just love them and do friendship with them and then they will be the best children in your eyes.
''I will drop you home.'' I said.
''Can we walk?'' said she.
Hands in hands but in silence we were walking down the street. Through these years, after countless meetings, phone calls, and nights spent talking, I have learned to understand her silence. And now, it was hard to accept the fact that she was leaving. I was not sure how I felt about it. Her friendliness, laughter, jokes, and goodness had quickly made her the love of my life. Her being half of my age was itself a proof of our unconditional love. I was wondering how would I do without her; holding her hand more tightly, thinking that I will never let her go, I..........
"After two days we would be away from each other, I can't believe this." Breaking the long pause she said.
I tried to control, still a little sad about the prospect of losing her, I consoled myself thinking that the person who had taught me so much about life and laughter, the person who had helped me grow to be myself, was just going away for a while, to do some growing and learning of her own and that I was not losing her. I was boggled when my selflessness dissolved into tears. She came forward to hug me, and my breath choked and I wrapped her in my arms. There were tears in her eyes, too, and we cried for a while, talking about things we'd done. How we managed to meet every now and then ,how we used to talk late night, how I used to give her her favorite chocolates throwing them through her window, being safe from our parents how we continued our friendship, the times we'd gone out for lunch and walked around talking in the loudest, most obnoxious voices we could and the songs we used to dedicate to each other.
Eventually our tears dried, and we stepped out of our embrace, reasoning that she did 'have two more days left.'
"I think you should leave now." She said.
"Take care." I kissed her forehead and turned around to leave. I looked ahead and found her mother standing right in front of me. But I could not react. I was just standing there blank with no expression of guilt or fear.And her mother stepped towards us. She gave me a 'murderer's' look and passed me by. I looked back at my love. She was standing there looking confident and had that expression of 'I have not done anything wrong, just listen to me once.' But mother could not be convinced. She slapped her, I went forward to explain everything but nevertheless I got the consolation prize, a tight slap on my left cheek. Before I could show my gratitude to her mother for comforting me with her consolation prize. She ragged her inside and asked me to leave. I thought that she will be able to convince her mother as we were innocent and we really did not do anything wrong, as per situation any mother's reaction to be like that was obvious but I believed that she would understand us after hearing the reality.
I was being restless thinking about what would have happened to her. All through these 7 years we did not have any obstacle in our friendship and now when she has to go away from me after only two days. This had to happen to give us all the pain at one single time. I was trying to be positive but every now and then I had that fear of losing her.
I called up her boyfriend the other night. Yes. I said "her boyfriend".You got it right!
We were not a couple, she was my best friend and I loved her more than anybody else. Her boyfriend told me that he talked to her brother and got to know that she left the city that day itself and her mother also left with her, She goes with her everywhere, she does not leave her alone for even a millisecond. She is not allowed to meet even her female friends, because her mother do not want any contact between us through anybody, she thinks that I used her daughter's innocence and played with her feelings. She was very sure that if she did not take this step I would have ditched her daughter and left her alone to suffer.
I asked him if she explained anything about our relation to her mother or not.
He said that she did. But she is not believing her, she is saying that I am not a fool, I can understand it very well, a guy and a girl can never be just friends. And that her mother is very disappointed with her that she broke her trust. And all she wants is to save her daughter from every kind of frustration.
"I can't understand dude how can she break her trust if her mother never had it on her and how can she save her from frustration by frustrating her." I said.
"We can't do anything. I just hope she is fine. We all have to suffer and you know her mother is saving her from sufferings. Don't worry we will soon find out some way." He said.
His little way of saying everything would be okay could not help me any better. I was amazed at his politeness in such a situation. A lump filled my throat, and I could no longer hide my tears. I used to think it was so easy to be strong and be optimistic because I had never before experienced the real reason to cry. I cried myself to sleep.
I didn't know how to cope with not having a part of me. She had become half of my mind. It was scary how empty and lost I felt. I had no energy and could not concentrate. The connection we had and still have is unbreakable, no matter what. To this day, even though she is not here with me. I love her and care about her so much. Not seeing her is really difficult. While she used to be my other half. I am now complete on my own, but all of me still loves her. I want her to know that through any challenges or obstacles, I want to face them together.
PART - 2
Why in some parts of our country there is an immense fear in teenage girls from their parents. When they do wrong the fear is natural but when they are faultless why do they fear to confess the truth. Why is there a fear in her in telling her parents about her close friendship with a boy even when she has no romantic relation with him. This is because of our mentality. Tell me the truth when you see two friends of same gender roaming around, you hardly care to notice them but when you see two friends of opposite gender (hmmm..you would never call them friends I know, you will rather call them a couple or a pair) spending some time together, whats the first thought coming in your mind ???why do you stare at them like that???
You and I both know the answer very well.
A girl and a boy from different families are not obviously gf-bf. They can be just friends or best friends. And the feeling of love in friendship is beyond the limit of love between an official couple. Friendship is actually love, the real selfless and unconditional love. The love is as devoted as the love with your sister, your father, your mother, or your brother.
How many times you have hugged or kissed your brother or father or son?? and for males how many times you have hugged or kissed your sister or mother or daughter?? what if we call it a romantic relationship rather than a devoted relationship, What if society tries to keep you away from your own child just because he is of opposite sex? why is it restrained to love someone with your heart just because you don't have an owned name for that relation and the society gives that relation a name which insults the feeling of LOVE.
If two friends of opposite sex love each other truly, that feeling is beyond the desire of physical attachment.
I have shared my views specially to make the parents of today's teenagers understand them, trust them, and support them, irrelevant to what society says. Try to be a friend rather than being a mother or father, be so loving and understanding that your child doesn't fear in confessing something. And when your child shares something, trust them.
If your child is lying to you, is hiding something from you or doing something wrong.Don't blame them or their friend's circle. The reason is you and your parenting. A child in teenage year is full of enthusiasm and excitement they would definitely follow the trends, your responsibility is to be so close to them that they do tell you without fear before taking any single step no matter if its a big one or a small one. Just love them and do friendship with them and then they will be the best children in your eyes.
